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Post: They Don’t Listen
And Why That Might Be Your Cue to Change
There seems to be a mysterious but consistent connection between an adult’s rising blood pressure and a child’s inability to listen. I’ve seen it play out time and again: a teacher, a parent, or a caregiver slowly unraveling as they repeat themselves for the fifth, sixth, or seventh time, while the child seemingly tunes them out without a care.
But here’s the thing: whether we realize it or not, we’re always teaching. Every interaction sends a message—even the ones where we feel ignored. When children consistently hear us repeat directions without consequence, they begin to learn that there’s no urgency in listening the first, or even second, time. In essence, we’re training them not to listen.
That doesn’t mean we stop being patient or understanding. But patience doesn’t mean passivity. There's wisdom in the old idiom, “Actions speak louder than words.” If our actions show that our words carry weight—that listening is expected and that accountability follows—children are far more likely to respond. On the other hand, if our words come without action, they may start to seem optional, even irrelevant.
So what’s the solution?
Be calm, but firm. Be kind, but consistent. Don’t delay when correction is needed. Set the tone early: listening is part of respect, and respect is non-negotiable.
Otherwise, you’ll find yourself endlessly repeating, endlessly frustrated, and stuck in a cycle where your words fall on deaf ears, and your patience wears thin.
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They Don’t Listen
And Why That Might Be Your Cue to Change
There seems to be a mysterious but consistent connection between an adult’s rising blood pressure and a child’s inability to listen. I’ve seen it play out time and again: a teacher, a parent, or a caregiver slowly unraveling as they repeat themselves for the fifth, sixth, or seventh time, while the child seemingly tunes them out without a care.
But here’s the thing: whether we realize it or not, we’re always teaching. Every interaction sends a message—even the ones where we feel ignored. When children consistently hear us repeat directions without consequence, they begin to learn that there’s no urgency in listening the first, or even second, time. In essence, we’re training them not to listen.
That doesn’t mean we stop being patient or understanding. But patience doesn’t mean passivity. There's wisdom in the old idiom, “Actions speak louder than words.” If our actions show that our words carry weight—that listening is expected and that accountability follows—children are far more likely to respond. On the other hand, if our words come without action, they may start to seem optional, even irrelevant.
So what’s the solution?
Be calm, but firm. Be kind, but consistent. Don’t delay when correction is needed. Set the tone early: listening is part of respect, and respect is non-negotiable.
Otherwise, you’ll find yourself endlessly repeating, endlessly frustrated, and stuck in a cycle where your words fall on deaf ears, and your patience wears thin.
Follow our Pearland-Silverlake blog: http://eternalma.com/Event/Blog |
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